No one likes to be told they’re not a good parent. Here are ways to get dads more involved without ᴇᴍʙᴀʀʀᴀssɪɴɢ them. Generally, fathers spend more time at work than mothers. As a result, they have less time to spend with their young children on a daily basis. And that’s why it’s hard for moms to see dads spending less time with their kids.
And toddlers are devoted to things like paying attention to cell phones, watching TV, or other activities that don’t involve them. Therefore, it is important to get dads involved but in a way that doesn’t embarrass them. Most dads want to spend time with their little ones because they realize that they won’t stay young forever.
However, due to professional responsibilities, there is hardly much time that fathers want to spend with their babies and toddlers. And when factoring in the time to unpack, that time is still reduced further. So with the time that fathers spend with their children, they need to make sure that they are present and helping as much as possible so that they can continue to be involved in their children’s lives while also taking some of the pressure off for mothers also.
1. Give dad daily care
From the moment a baby is born, mothers are always interested in taking care of the baby. As such, be it with the baby or even when the child grows up to be a toddler, mothers in general still take on most of the responsibility for things like bathing, brushing hair, brushing teeth, dressing, etc clothes and Likes.
But by encouraging dad to help with these activities, he’ll be more involved without the shame of doing so. Many times, a father doesn’t push to be more involved in his child’s care because he feels “excluded” from his ability to care for the baby. This exclusion comes from the fact that the mother can take care of all the day-to-day care tasks on her own.
And a father finds himself in no place in that process. As such, ensuring that a father is involved in the day-to-day care of his children will not only help this reason, not why he is not taking care of his children, but also instill confidence in the parents of his little child.
2. Spend time specifically with father and son
On weekends or certain days when the father comes home before the bedtime routine begins, ask him to choose a certain designated time for his baby or toddler. Fathers need time for themselves and their children. It could be going for a walk together, reading a book or playing with toys.
When fathers are able to spend uninterrupted time with their child or toddler, they build a bond with them. Participating in the play is something dads feel like they can do without experience. Thus, encouraging playtime is a way for fathers to interact with their children without making them feel bad for not being involved like they should be.
3. Keep dad in the loop by giving highlights of the day
Just because dads may not be there for many of their daily activities due to professional obligations, that doesn’t mean they can’t continue to participate in what happens. According to the Nebraska Research Center, when fathers are involved in the daily lives of infants and toddlers, those little ones grow up to be more successful academically.
And more socially than children whose fathers are not involved. Therefore, suggest taking a little time at the end of the day to recount what happened in the life of the baby or toddler with dad. Not only does your baby feel more connected, but it’s also an easy way to bond between mom and dad at the end of the day, which is what every relationship with young children needs.
4. There Are Days Dad Can Pick Up From Kindergarten Or School
While most parents think that the only time setting up a schedule for picking up and dropping their children from daycare or school is for parents who are no longer together, the truth is nothing can happen. According to Coach, Mediate, Consult, when a father and mother are involved in sending their child to daycare or school, the child feels “supported by both parents.”
This helps build a bond between the father and his child or toddler. Furthermore, when dad picks him up from daycare or school, he’s responsible for relaying information back to mom about what happened that day. In this way, he is actively participating in the child’s life and being involved without being ᴀsʜᴀᴍᴇᴅ of it.
5. Non-negotiable nights where everyone eats dinner together
Dinner time is an ᴜɴɪɴᴛᴇʀʀᴜᴘᴛᴇᴅ period of time where people focus their attention on each other instead of other activities, phone calls, text messages, or the nightly news. It can also be a way for fathers to be more involved in their children’s lives. Dinnertime is a time for families to bond, children to learn, socialize, and more.
And while it may not be possible to cook dinner together every day, there should be days of the week when family dinners take place. Of course, not every family can have dinner together every night. But when both moms and dads have a day off from work, it’s the perfect time to have dinner together to help dad bond not just with his kids but with the family in general.
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