We are all ɪɴᴜɴᴅᴀᴛᴇᴅ with countless hardships around the first few weeks of having a newborn. And even though they are true – time flies so fast, you should try to cherish every moment. You will experience a love that you never thought possible, and having children has changed you. There’s more to ɪɴꜰᴀɴᴄʏ than just these ᴄʟɪᴄʜᴇ́s. In the midst of a baby’s happy period, there are several other factors along the way.
1. You’ll feel as if you’re messing things up
If you think you’re doing everything wrong, but ᴏᴅᴅs are, you’re doing everything right. Newborns don’t have to follow a routine at this stage, which is why the best thing you can do is let your baby guide you. Over time, you will learn its cues and it will learn that there are times to sleep, play, and feed. But this often comes later.
2. Cluster feeding will be your new career
During the first week, you can give up your title as a human and admit that you are officially a milking machine. Between breastfeeding and expressing excess milk to relieve the ᴘᴀɪɴ, you don’t have much time for other things. It won’t last. As your milk comes in and once you and the bubble get used to the full spectrum of supply and demand, cluster feedings will decrease and the time between feeds will lengthen.
3. You will understand burnout
We’ve all had a couple of people all night through the day in our younger party days, right? And we’ve all experienced the joy of trying to function the next day without sleep. That’s even more difficult when sleep deprivation is ongoing. Again, not all babies will keep their parents up all night. But babies are not meant to sleep through the night. And when your newborn isn’t asleep yet, so are you.
Some nights, it feels like you’ve just fallen asleep when you hear a faint cry next to you. Yes, that is ꜰʀᴜsᴛʀᴀᴛɪɴɢ ᴀɴᴅ ᴇxʜᴀᴜsᴛɪɴɢ. But just remember, your little one is not trying to upset you. He just needs you to comfort him, soothe him, give him food for his tiny belly, and to reassure him that, even if you don’t hug him, you’re still there.
4. You will see a range of other emotions
These emotions can be difficult to control and understand. One moment you are in a bubble of happiness with your child. Next, you’re in tears because someone ᴋɴᴏᴄᴋs on your door and wakes up. The bottom line is this – being an emotional mess is normal. Resentment, sadness, loneliness, disappointment, anger, guilt – it all comes with postnatal territory.
However, if these feelings are affecting your ability to see the positives and experience the joy of being a new mother. It could be a sign that postpartum depression has set in its ugly ʜᴇᴀᴅ, so tell someone.
5. You will grow more padding in more areas than one
If you’re breastfeeding, breast pads should become part of your everyday wardrobe. Without them, you could be considered the winner of any wet t-shirt contest in the area. You can also wear heavy maternity pads for the first few days to a week. After that, you may still need to wear the pads (for up to eight weeks) as your ʙᴏᴅʏ recovers from childbirth.
6. No matter how expensive the crib is, your newborn will love sleeping on you
Why do babies always want to sleep on or near you? Because it’s familiar. The warmth of your sᴋɪɴ, the comfort of your hug, the smell of your ʙᴏᴅʏ, the ʙᴇᴀᴛ of your ʜᴇᴀʀᴛ – being in your arms is the closest thing to the ᴡᴏᴍʙ they can muster in this strange new world.
7. And, most importantly, your baby won’t get used to this new world right away
For nine months, your newborn is free to eat, sleep and feed whenever he feels like it. Most babies won’t be completely satisfied with their new surroundings and scheduled expectations right away. This is why the first trimester is often referred to as the fourth trimester. Even though you’re not ᴘʀᴇɢɴᴀɴᴛ anymore, your baby will expect the same requirements as in the ᴡᴏᴍʙ.
This is why many new moms choose baby clothes, to provide plenty of sᴋɪɴ-ᴛᴏ-sᴋɪɴ contact with both mom and dad. And for their newborn to mimic the constant movement inside the ᴡᴏᴍʙ. It won’t last forever. Exhaustion will gradually decrease. The time between feeds will increase. And the constant need for your newborn to be in your arms will fade away. So embrace the clichés, challenges, and satisfaction that come with these first weeks.