Mothers are usually very worried when they give the baby to kindergarten. After all, they can no longer control whether the child is well there, whether they offend him.
Parents often wonder if their child will be well in kindergarten. How comfortable will his stay in the group during the day be? How will the teacher communicate with the baby and can he be trusted? What can he teach and what example does he set for children? Will the baby feel good, constantly being near this specialist?
Such questions arise not only when choosing a garden. They disturb the parent even when the choice has already been made and the child attends a preschool institution for a long time.
Decide for yourself
It is the adult who makes a choice in favor of kindergarten, based on an understanding of the way of life of his family and the individual characteristics of the child. So let’s let the kid not make important decisions. It’s still early and useless. Don’t shift your responsibility to him.
Analytical centers of the cerebral cortex will be formed in him only by the age of 7. This means that the ability to reflect on the child is not yet available. Therefore, it is impossible to demand from a son or daughter an answer to the question of whether they like kindergarten.
All of the child’s reactions are related to the current situation, based on the relationships, states, moods, and conversations that he hears from his parents. During this period, his connection with his parents is very strong. The kid focuses on their opinion in the first place, since for him these are the most significant adults in his environment.
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Take a closer look at how much the atmosphere of kindergarten is liked by you. Here is a list of items that can help a parent make their choice:
1. Location. The location of the kindergarten should be such that the road back and forth does not take you too much time.
2. Payment. Be sure to find out what is included in the list of paid services. Are there no hidden fees? Do I need an entry fee?
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3. The process of nutrition. Does the garden have its own kitchen and dining room? Where is the food prepared: in the garden itself or is it brought from another organization? On what principle is the menu developed? Is it possible to discuss with the staff the features of the diet for your baby?
4. Children’s bedrooms. Are these separate rooms for recreation? In what conditions do children fall asleep and rest?
5. Game rooms. Are they separate or combined with the bedroom? What kind of toys are there?
6. Daily routine for the child. Is the daily routine always the same? What is at the heart of it?
7. Playground for festivities. Is it in the garden? What is it in? Is it fenced on all sides?
8. Medical worker. What is the qualification of a specialist (pediatrician or nurse)? Is there such a specialist in kindergarten? Is he always in the garden? What are his responsibilities?
9. Personnel development. When did the workers undergo advanced training in their specialty, first aid courses?
10. Classes. What classes are included in the schedule, who conducts them? Which of them are aimed at the development of intelligence, creativity, physical development? What is the list of subjects that the child will be engaged in, and with what frequency (mathematics, logic, literacy, writing, foreign languages, sports classes, choreography, music, speech therapist, psychologist, chess, etc.)? Is there a training program and what is it, what is it aimed at?
11. Legal issues. Is there a license to conduct educational activities? Is it possible to pay for a stay in the garden with maternity capital? Is there a medical office and an isolation room for sick children?
12. Opportunities for additional education. Is there any instruction in English and other languages in the garden? How are the classes conducted? What do children do in class? What will kids learn during the year of classes? What program are they doing? What is it aimed at?
13. Preparation for school. How does kindergarten prepare a child for school? Who does it? Does the kindergarten have connections with the nearest or prestigious schools? Are there special preparatory classes in the kindergarten before school and how do they take place?
14. Classes with other teachers. Are there classes not only with permanent educators? How often do they pass?
15. Events held by the kindergarten. Do educators with children go to museums, theaters, parks, planetariums,s and other interactive areas of the city? What events are held in the kindergarten during the year?
The list of questions is given for convenience, so that such a list is always at hand to help parents. A happy child is a common task, and for this it is important to choose a garden for the soul that fully meets your expectations.
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Requirements for educators
It is these specialists who spend most of the time with children. How do you know if they’re right for your child? Here are a few criteria.
- Is the teacher’s speech competent? It should be clean, without flaws, noticeable features and a pronounced accent. If the baby has not yet begun to speak or is just mastering speech, then he may perceive the wrong pronunciation as the norm and adopt this defect. The educator should speak clearly, correctly and, of course, not to use dubious expressions.
- Under what program does the teacher deal with children? Feel free to clarify this question. Find out what it’s aimed at. How are classes built, in what form, according to what scenario do they take place? What auxiliary methods does the teacher use?
- Find out the duration of the lessons. Remember that the baby is still forming perseverance and the ability to concentrate. Therefore, for each age, SanPin recommends its duration of classes: from 10 to 25 minutes, depending on age.
Professional suitability test
Pay attention to the following points:
- Does your teacher know how to find a common language with children? Or immediately resorts to manipulation, breaks down to scream and goes to punishment?
- Are children restricted from movement? Does your baby sit all day with his hands folded on his knees, or can he move freely in the area where the teacher sees him?
- How does the caregiver meet the child in the morning? Does he go into the locker room? How does he behave? Is it clear that he is happy to meet your baby?
- Does the caregiver give feedback on how the child’s day went? Does he know about its features? Does he share what he has learned?
According to these signs, you will quickly determine how your baby feels, being near the teacher.
If a child experiences difficulties while in kindergarten, then he will definitely show it through his behavior. All you need is to be attentive to your baby. Do not hesitate to approach and analyze your concerns with a tutor or a staff psychologist.
Remember: the educator should please you. You have to trust this person, and it’s about your child’s life and health.
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How does kindergarten affect the baby?
It is very important to monitor the child’s reactions to kindergarten. But something is wrong… Before you make an assessment, you need to understand the situation in detail.
An important point: the adaptation of the child to being in kindergarten is a completely different story that deserves a separate conversation. There are conditions for this period of its own. Now we are considering a situation where adaptation, which can last from one day to a month, is left behind. Let’s analyze the main guidelines that will help in understanding the issue.
Usually, children, when faced with unpleasant events, begin to sleep worse. Here, parents need to analyze the events that took place in the family and in the kindergarten at that time. Children 4-6 years old usually say or mirror in their behavior what is happening at home or in the kindergarten (in simple situations: how they are punished, scolded, forbidden something).
Another reaction is that children refuse to go to the garden and do it very sharply. It looks like this: the baby for a long time quietly went to the group, and recently began to throw tantrums before leaving, refuse to visit. You must first understand what the behavior of the child is connected with: with the events at home or with his stay in kindergarten.
Toddlers express their condition more through restless sleep and changes in emotional behavior. Older children are looking for a way out through games, plots and words, their behavior becomes more alarming.
When the teacher reacts too emotionally to some events, children immediately begin to mirror his behavior – capricious, anxious. This can be a sign for parents to meet and talk to the administration, to express their concerns. Perhaps it is worth offering the educator rest, since the emotional load in this area is great, and it is important to rest in a timely manner.
It happens that the period of adaptation to new conditions has already passed, but the child’s behavior is still tense. Often this is due to some changes in the life and environment of the child (moving, the appearance of a brother or sister in the family, the emergence of any tense situations in the home environment, even if not related to the baby himself). If there are no such reasons, then you should pay attention to the kindergarten.
What in the child’s behavior should attract your attention?
- manifestation of aggression – hidden or explicit;
- constant lethargy, lack of initiative;
- anxiety, poor sleep, fearfulness for no apparent reason;
- change in speech – vocabulary decreases, there are stumbling in sentences, stuttering;
- refusal to attend kindergarten.
In any case, it is important to remember that both parents and kindergarten have the same goal – the health and well-being of the child. And here it is important to sit down at the negotiating table with the specialists of the preschool: the administration, psychologists, educators. Tell them your fears and concerns. Listen to the observations and recommendations of specialists, build together a route for overcoming problems, teaching the child to understand their emotions and cope with similar situations. If there are teachers leading additional classes, then their opinion will also be very important.
Joint efforts will help to develop an action plan for both kindergarten teachers and you personally. This is the only way to understand how to help a child develop in comfortable conditions. And at the same time – to find out how the psychological environment in the garden is safe and beneficial for him.
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Pupae, to the rescue!
Another way to understand how the baby feels in a new environment is to invite him to play kindergarten with the help of dolls. Observe how the heroes he controls behave. Is there aggression and rudeness in their conversations? What plots are playing out? So you can better understand what is happening in the soul of the child, what worries him.