Chores, especially when teens are involved, may be a major cause of friction in many households. Whether your adolescent consistently says, “I’ll do it later,” or flatly says, “I’m not doing that,” motivating young people to go to work might be difficult. When your teen isn’t making an effort, it might be tempting to prod them to get up and move. It’s not a smart idea to nag.
If your adolescent knows you’ll remind him a dozen times, he’ll forget to take out the trash on Tuesdays. And if the first four times you instructed him to do something were ineffective, he’s not going to do it the fifth time. Chores are essential for children. Chores are also an excellent method to teach teenagers responsibility. Here’s how to encourage your teenager to complete chores without bothering him or her.
1.Offer Some Flexibility
Teenage years are an ideal time to develop important life skills like self-discipline. Allowing your kid some flexibility and independence when it comes to housework allows him or her to develop these skills. Tell your teen that after his tasks are completed, he may use his electronics or enjoy his other privileges. Then let him pick when he wants to start working. When he’s able to make little decisions on his own, he’ll be able to better manage his time.
2. Set Clear Consequences
Make it clear what will happen if your adolescent fails to do his tasks. Whether you just don’t allow him to work or you take away his privileges, make sure your adolescent understands that he is in charge of his own destiny. If they refuse to complete their duties, enforce the consequences without offering them any warnings.
3. Pay a Commission
While some parents believe that all tasks should be compensated for, others believe that children should pitch in and assist without expecting to be paid. A middle-of-the-road approach can sometimes be a good way to instill important life lessons while also teaching responsibility.
A commission might be earned for babysitting younger siblings, mowing the yard, or raking the lawn. Being a good citizen includes things like cleaning his room, doing the dishes, and assisting with meals.
4. Assign Chores in Advance
Asking your adolescent to undertake a last-minute job might result in a fight. If you approach your teen while he or she is watching TV on a Saturday morning and ask, “Can you kindly clean the garage now?” you will almost certainly be met with resistance.
Make your expectations as clear as possible ahead of time. Assign regular duties, such as emptying the dishwasher and cleaning the bathroom, that you expect to be performed on a regular basis. Requests for more duties should be made as infrequently as possible.
5. Don’t Buy Everything
They won’t be motivated to perform chores if you buy everything your adolescent wants or offer them endless privileges regardless of how much work they put in. Cover the essentials, but don’t give your kid more money or privileges just because he or she asks.
6. Offer only one reminder
The aim is for your teen to be able to accomplish all of their tasks without the need for reminders in the future. After all, you won’t be there when they’re 30 to urge them to clean their room (hopefully not, anyway). However, if your kid needs one reminder at first, give it to them—but only one.
To remind them of the implications, use a “If…then” sentence. “If you don’t clean the bathroom before evening, you won’t be able to use your devices tomorrow,” for example. Then let them decide whether or not they want to do it.
If they refuse to complete their tasks, impose the penalty. Instead of scolding or condemning them, make it plain that if they want to keep their privileges, they may choose to complete their tasks in the future.