What if you learned to accept your hypersensitivity and turn this peculiarity into strength? Indeed, this great sensitivity can become an asset in your daily life… provided you know how to use it. The editorial team takes stock to help you, with the help of psychologist Johanna Rozenblum.
Hypersensitivity: a quality more than a defect
20 to 25% of the population is hypersensitive, or at least one in five people, according to psychologist and researcher Elaine Aron. This expert, herself hypersensitive, also argues that these people do not necessarily know it.
“Hypersensitivity is not a disease or a defect, but this way of feeling things very strongly, both physically and psychologically,” says clinical psychologist Johanna Rozenblum. “It can be difficult for the person and those around them to live with,” she adds.
Hypersensitivity: Start by recognizing it
“Getting to know yourself enough to anticipate situations that may be complex or generating stress, set up coping strategies, learn to verbalize around your effects will help make this hypersensitivity a characteristic that we master and that no longer makes us suffer,” advises the specialist.
Psychologists highlight many qualities common in hypersensitive people. Indeed, these people would be more loyal, conscientious, attentive, and creative than others. “And it is this ability to recognize emotions and feel them strongly that makes the hypersensitive an expert in emotions’. This knowledge cannot make him insensitive to the experiences of others, it is for this reason that hypersensitive people are often very empathetic and attentive personalities.”
Stop feeling guilty
Once the milestone of recognition has been crossed, learn to accept this hypersensitivity. To achieve this, you should not feel guilty for having this or that reaction. The entourage is not always benevolent on the subject, and too often, the hypersensitive hear remarks such as“you take things too much to heart”. Learn to overcome these words, because “in the same way that a person may lack empathy, the hypersensitive person does not have to apologize or feel guilty,” insists the therapist. So you have no shame in feeling and expressing your emotions.
Learn how to decipher your reactions
Why did I feel uncomfortable? What made me sad? Why did I suddenly become so stressed? “Learning to recognize the emotion that overwhelms us is the starting point for anticipating situations that generate discomfort and implementing coping strategies,” says psychologist Johanna Rozenblum. Going back on past events seems all the more judicious for the hypersensitive. This allows you to appreciate a situation with hindsight and try to understand certain emotions that may have overwhelmed you without warning. This awareness can then help protect you from certain situations or people who are causing these disorders.
Remember to outsource your feelings
Trying to create a positive environment is important for morale, but you also have to recognize that not everything is necessarily positive. Repressing one’s emotions is never profitable, and this is especially true for a hypersensitive person. Indeed, it is essential that your emotions are expressed, in any way whatsoever, because according to the specialist, “everything that is not said will eventually be expressed by the body and/or thought”. So don’t be afraid to cry if you feel the need for it for example!
Hypersensitive, take time for yourself!
This character trait is innate. “People describe themselves as shy and sensitive since childhood. They feel like they are different, but don’t have specific terms to define that. They are more sensitive to their environment,” says Elaine Aron. As a result, sources of over-stimulation, whether external with noise, smells, social interactions, or internal with worries or questions, tire the hypersensitive a lot. The specialist, therefore, recommends that hypersensitive people take breaks in order to manage their emotions, always without feeling guilty.
Find out what you’re passionate about
“Making one’s sensitivity a tool, a creative essence, a quality that allows us to listen to ourselves is a beautiful way to adapt. The way we look at our hypersensitivity is essential, making it evolve and work on acceptance will allow us to live in harmony with ourselves, to feel legitimate and to dare”, explains Johanna Rozenblum.
Take advantage of your sensitivity to create, sublimate or share precious moments with your loved ones. Hypersensitive people are often very sensitive to art… Maybe you have a hidden talent to develop? There is no age to start! In addition, having a passion allows you to isolate yourself for a while and calm down when needed, especially after a day when your emotions have particularly overwhelmed you.
Have a cocoon to take refuge there if necessary
At home, in the forest, in the arms of your dear and tender, or simply by putting a pair of headphones on your ears with your favorite music, it is important to have some kind of protective bubble where you can feel soothed and safe.