Your child – and you as a parent – will go through a number of changes during puberty. Your child is growing up, and you may be unsure how to best assist them while they go through the physical, psychological, and emotional changes that come with it.
Don’t worry; there’s a lot you can do to assist your youngster. One of the most effective methods is to just be comforting.
Every youngster goes through puberty, which is a sequence of natural changes. Some children struggle with the transitions, while others go through puberty with ease. During this stage of development, only a tiny fraction of youngsters suffer acute upheaval.
Puberty may be exciting and memorable, and as your child’s parent or caregiver, you’re in a great position to assist them.
When puberty starts?
Puberty begins a few years before you begin to notice any physical changes. This means that puberty can begin for girls between the ages of 8 and 15, and for boys between the ages of 9 and 15. Which explains why you could notice your child being moody before you see any physical changes in them.
We typically don’t see any physical changes in girls until they are between the ages of 11 and 13. (plus or minus a few years). Boys often start a few years later than girls, with changes visible between the ages of 12 and 13. (plus or minus a few years).
If your daughter or son is between the ages of 11 and 13, or you’ve seen changes in them or their classmates, it’s time to begin preparing your kid, which means providing them more specific information about what’s coming up.
What changes happen during puberty?
Knowing what changes will occur in your child is beneficial since it allows you to plan ahead. You can also be prepared to discuss the changes before or after they occur.
The following changes can occur in both a girl’s and a boy’s body:
- Growth spurts, i.e. becoming taller and heavier, are common.
- Acne or pimples, the voices become louder.
- Hair and skin grow oilier as time goes on.
- The hair on your arms and legs thickens a little.
- Hair starts to grow in the armpits and pubic area.
- The stench of one’s own body grows worse.
- Hands and feet get larger and longer as they get older.
In addition, girls will:
- Develop breast
- Increase the width of your hips and the roundness of your thighs and bottoms.
- Begin heir periods (menstruation)
- Grow in height, weight, and muscle mass, with broader shoulders and chest.
- Have greater erections when they least anticipate (or desire) it
- Have wet dreams and start ejaculating sperm
- Increase the size of the penis, testicles, and scrotum.
When to start talking?
Most parents don’t worry about puberty until their kid or their child’s classmates begin to change. They may also refer to it as “the talk,” in which you teach them all they need to know in one extended chat.
We now know that having “the talk” doesn’t work and that having many open and honest continuous dialogues with children is the best way for them to learn. This implies that parents should have several talks about puberty rather than just one!
How you can support your child during puberty?
Reassurance is one of the most effective methods for dealing with your child’s adolescence. Explain that puberty is a thrilling period since it signals the start of maturity.
Try to empathize with them and tell them that the changes they’re going through are natural – and that the majority of them will pass. Of course, if you’re worried about your child’s growth, speak with your doctor.
The importance of role-modeling body acceptance during puberty cannot be overstated. Your youngster will compare his or her physique to that of their peers and may get concerned about their own growth. Showing empathy and explaining that bodies exist in different shapes and sizes is the finest thing you can do. Your child will benefit from you modeling a healthy lifestyle.
Accept your child’s desire for seclusion and the possibility that he or she is discovering their body through masturbation. Before approaching their room, always knock.
If your child is experiencing puberty early or late, be patient and provide lots of comfort and support. They could be ashamed, but reassure them that everyone grows at their own rate.
It’s also a good idea to keep the following pointers in mind:
- Praise your adolescent for their efforts, accomplishments, and good behavior.
- Put yourself in your child’s place and attempt to view their behavior for what it is: a youngster trying to find his or her own identity.
- During your child’s furious outbursts, try to remain cool. Wait until your youngster has calmed down before addressing the issue.
- Maintain an interest and involvement in your child’s activities, and be accessible if he or she needs to chat.
- Talk to your partner or other parents of adolescent children. Sharing worries and experiences might help to lighten the weight.
- Try to encourage your child’s self-expression, even if part of it strikes you as strange, such as an excessive haircut or unusual dress choices.
- Tolerate extended amounts of time spent on personal care, such as hours in the toilet, but discuss realistic family time boundaries with your child.
- Discuss any permanent modifications your kid wants to make to their body, such as tattoos and piercings, as well as temporary options like henna (removable) tattoos.
- Talk to your child about their feelings regarding acne if they have it. Inquire if they’d want to visit a doctor if it’s troubling them. Your doctor may recommend your adolescent to a dermatologist or skin expert.
How to look after yourself at this time?
It’s critical that you take care of yourself during this potentially difficult period in your child’s growth. Trust your parenting abilities, and seek advice from others or educate yourself on the issue so you can confidently guide your child through it.
Below are some suggestions about how to take care of yourself:
- Make a weekly family schedule so you know what everyone is doing and where they should be. Include some enjoyable family routines, such as playing cards on Saturday nights or going for a weekly walk or bike ride. Remember to set aside some time for yourself.
- Maintain a healthy connection with your partner. Remember, they’re dealing with many of the same issues you are. A regular date night in your family’s calendar may be quite beneficial.
- Make use of your social support systems, such as grandparents, other family members, and friends. What youngster (or adolescent) doesn’t love being pampered by an adoring grandparent? You may also carpool or delegate supervision to pals.
- Solicit assistance from the children with home tasks. Your kid will develop new skills and responsibilities, which will ease the burden on you as parents and caregivers.
- Maintain a good attitude and maintain a sense of perspective.