There’s a huge difference between a child who gets yelled at a lot and doesn’t get yelled at. In the process of raising children, parents inevitably Sᴄᴏʟᴅ their children because they are too angry. However, there are many parents who also consider sᴄᴏʟᴅɪɴɢ as a strict way of educating their children to obey.
1. Children who are often sᴄᴏʟᴅᴇᴅ
Often ɪʀʀɪᴛᴀʙʟᴇ, loudly argues with parents
When children are raised by their parents in this form of verbal ᴠɪᴏʟᴇɴᴄᴇ for a long time, they will gradually develop an ɪʀʀɪᴛᴀʙʟᴇ personality. Children will believe that the way to solve problems is how their parents are treating them. This will make it difficult for children to get along with others and have difficulty interacting with people later on.
Low self-esteem, cowardice, or give up because of fear of difficulties, fear of sᴜꜰꜰᴇʀɪɴɢ
For example, children who are often sᴄᴏʟᴅᴇᴅ by their parents for a long time will gradually become self-deprecating, do not want to express their opinions, and gradually become cowardly. In particular, their subconscious will choose to avoid difficulties or ᴄᴏɴꜰʟɪᴄᴛs in their interactions with people.
Likes flattery, doesn’t dare to offend others
Parents who often yell at their children will make them afraid of everything. Some children, in order to please their parents, choose to silently endure unreasonable sᴄᴏʟᴅɪɴɢ. This will cause children to form a mentality that is too concerned with the attitudes of others, not daring to refuse.
Lack of confidence, or fear
Have you noticed that, every time you scold a child, their ʙᴏᴅʏ will shrink, which means that the child is very scared. Frequent sᴄᴏʟᴅɪɴɢ will cause children to gradually become afraid of their parents, less confident, and not dare to communicate with people.
2. The kids don’t get sᴄᴏʟᴅᴇᴅ
Confident and energetic personality
Parents are the mirror of their children’s behavior. Children who grow up in a harmonious family, less sᴄᴏʟᴅᴇᴅ by their parents often know how to better control their emotions. In the future, children will become more and more confident, dare to try things that others are afraid of, and are not afraid to back down in the face of difficulties.
Positive and optimistic attitude
When parents sᴄᴏʟᴅ, children will create a feeling of fear of making mistakes when doing something wrong. It is because of this mentality that children are born with a pessimistic attitude about everything. In contrast, children who are not scalded will have a positive, optimistic, loving life attitude, constantly thinking to find a way to solve problems, and still do not give up in the face of difficulties.
Children grow up in a happy, happy family, parents will give them the opportunity to make mistakes and thereby realize lessons for themselves. Children will not be afraid when they do wrong, because if they do wrong, they will bravely take responsibility.
Love your parents more
When parents do not sᴄᴏʟᴅ their children, children will naturally get closer and love their parents more. At this time, children tend to want to tell their parents all their joys and sorrows, like a friend.
Have a rich imagination
Children by nature are always very kind people, their mistakes are often due to their inquisitive nature, constantly exploring and creating, which sometimes causes trouble for their parents. If parents do not scold them with their mischief, children will be promoted to develop their imagination.
Have strong self-esteem
When children are respected by their parents, children will gradually have a stronger sense of self-esteem in society. They won’t let others hurt them easily. On the contrary, if a child is regularly beaten and sᴄᴏʟᴅᴇᴅ every day, he will get used to being bullied, do not know how to resist being bullied outside, and over time, his sense of self-esteem will also weaken.
Lack of tolerance for disappointment
Perhaps this is the only weakness of children who are not sᴄᴏʟᴅᴇᴅ by their parents. When children live in an environment that is too safe and peaceful, when entering society, they may encounter some situations that make them afraid and hide. However, parents can teach their children how to deal with frustration in other ways than by yelling in a negative way.