It is an incontestable fact that, since social networks appeared in our lives, relationships have become a little more complicated, especially those of a couple. It seems much easier for jealousy or possessive feelings to wake up when your partner refuses to give you his password (will he be hiding something from me?), has taken away the connection time, or uploaded a ‘stories to Instagram yesterday, but did not answer your WhatsApp.
They are first-world problems, perhaps, but many people end up truly obsessed with those little details. The world is divided into two types of people: those who continuously upload photos to their social networks and those who never do. Friction can arise with couples: perhaps one tends to share his life online while the other is more introverted.
Some people think that if their partner does not want to put any information about their relationship on social networks, it is because they have something to hide or they want to continue pretending that they are single.
A 2019 joint study between Carnegie Mellon University and the University of Kansas concluded that frequent social media posting can have a negative effect on relationships unless the partner you consistently post about is regularly included in posts.
On the other hand, a survey of 2,000 Britons found that those who never posted about their partner were more likely to admit to being ‘very happy in their relationship, compared to those who posted a couple of times a year, once a week, or three times a week. There is a lot of data to suggest that all that glitters is not gold and that a relationship that shows up too much on social media might not be so happy.
A 2014 study concluded that couples with less security in their relationship tended to be the ones who posted the most.
A 2014 study concluded that couples with less confidence in their relationship tended to be the ones who posted the most. It is not uncommon, because many investigations have already delved into the insecurity caused by networks.
But there is a dichotomy: some people think that if their partner does not want to put any information about their relationship on social networks, it is because they have something to hide or they want to continue pretending that they are single. Why do some people decide to share their lives on social media in the first place?
When you upload a photo with your partner you are marking the ground and showing possible romantic rivals that you are the chosen one.
According to Psychology Today, social media gives you the opportunity to interact with large numbers of people (some of whom could be alternative couples). When you upload a photo with your current partner you are marking the ground and indicating to others the path you have chosen. Not only that, you are giving your partner the same opportunity, by showing your relationship online you also indicate to potential romantic rivals that it is out of the market.
On the other hand, people who decide that their relationship only belongs to them seem to choose to fully enjoy the time they spend with their partner and make the most of the experience without having to prove anything to anyone but the other. According to many experts, that is the key to being more satisfied with themselves: you should seek validation in yourself and the couple and not through social networks.
A survey showed that you can predict the degree of psychopathy and narcissism of a person in relation to the selfies they post on networks.
Experts also claim that the people who post more frequently are not only more insecure but also, according to a survey of 800 men between 18 and 40 years old, it was possible to predict the degree of psychopathy and narcissism of a person in relation to the selfies they posted on networks.
The conclusions, in general, seem to indicate that people who stay away from social networks are happier, but when it comes down to it, of course, and beyond studies, it really matters what you feel and the way you want to express it.